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Happiness
Redefined?
A concept like happiness or freedom poses
problems for definition. The sense of abstract words like these can be quite
open to interpretation, and there is no real-world referent. For some, happiness
is based solely on being part of a loving family that is safe and well provided
for. For others, happiness is rooted in material possessions or power. Although
you may have quite different interpretations of concepts, in
our everyday conversations you seem to be content with a general understanding
of the meaning and understand that any utterance is open to some variation, depending on the person speaking.
Briefly, there are two types of happiness:
temporary and permanent. And by all types, happiness is transient. There is
nothing such as permanent or absolute happiness.
It is the feelings, the series of feelings of the loss of mental consciousness.
Happiness is the accumulation of many good activities – whereby your mental
gets engaged with those. These many good actions keep you a good life. Physical or external happiness brings internal happiness.
Why GNH is NOT Successful?
Why are we not happy? All of us are born
blank; clear crystal and simple mind. There is no question of what’s life?
Once we grow, everything pours; religion, culture, society, norms, fears, etc.
We are tuned like a machine to act. Our lives are conformed and ruled. I have
briefly considered some hitches with references to some particular consistencies.
The first
obstruction to happiness is religion. A slight deeper understanding of the spiritual
world brings greater unhappiness, just like the greater knowledge subsumes a major portion of happiness. Religion teaches concocted falseness of life like
sufferings, sorrows, sins, death, that alter our lives and our every action.
Religion corrupts with many unrealistic imaginations and theories and
creates fears, not only in this life but also a next life – troubled by
imagination. On the other hand, you have to follow the dogmas of religion from
fear of ex-communication from the parents and community. You believe that
religion is only the secret and one own way to reach heaven. Since religions
say all are born as sinners, and if you don’t purify in this life, you believe
you will be condemned to hell by God. So you live under constant fears if
your works are right according to religion or not. Your mind is filled with
worry and anxiety about hell. So your life becomes fearful of living. It truly
confuses your living. For example, phallicism adds shame, and people
secretly spittle and demerit the values.
Religion teaches you to be like the Buddha,
Lord Krishna, Christ, etc, and when you fail to attain that, you hate yourself and slowly become bad and corrupted, and you think you are not worthy to live.
These doubts and superstitious beliefs, at last, dehumanize you. When you hate
yourself, you hate your partner; you hate your family, people, animals,
community, and society. You have a cesspool of hatred. And hatred leads to an
unhappy life.
The concept and the search of emptiness in
religion in turn fill your mind – making god-fearing, not god loving. You tend
to suffer in the real life because you live in the imagination, the world outside of this
world, infecting the imaginary pains and suffering to the surrounding, to a
greater extend. You’re caught up in doubt. You’re afraid to make a decision.
You skip from one belief to another, always doubting whether if you’ve found
the right path. For example, a desire to be in imaginary perfected heaven
taunts the real-life more and diminishes when you imagined of hell. You become increasingly aware that your mind
trembles between religion and life, likes and dislikes, pain and
pleasure. This is the basis of the problem of suffering and you distort the
very nature of life. Religion sucks your life. There is no transcending
happiness. A drunkard man is a happy man. He lives the moment. He enjoys. He
has no past, no present, no future; a buoyant life swings him with laughters.
The effect of drugs is the state of happiness, and if you know you’re drugged,
your happiness fades. Religion is like drugs, and if you don’t know how to incorporate it into your life, you boggle a good life.
The followers of the religious sect are the most
despicable people in the world. Monks, suppose, are the miserable group of
species on the earth. They sneaked out from the monasteries and play snookers/caroms
in the Hongkong market in Thimphu. They rape, they commit all kinds of illegal
things. The first tobacco offender was a monk in Bhutan. And he deserves three
years prison terms because he was a bad example from a good people.
I defined happiness as a collection of happy
activities. Religion forbids all pleasurable things, enjoyable activities.
Where is happiness if these activities are not allowed? For example, religion prohibits playing Degor
or archery, and there are a set of principles if indulged much. The activities
are short-time joy, and this recurrence of short-term joys is the essence of long-term inner peace and happiness. Happiness is also a manifestation of
external or physical happiness. External happiness brings internal happiness.
Happiness is lost, when there is no good love.
Religion forbids this too. Where is happiness without attachment,
affection, love, passion? The cruel intention
of religion is to solitude you and destroys self-worth, and separates with
personal love and affection. Personal love and happiness radiate to others. Religion
doesn’t reflect life, it doesn’t show good ways, and it never touches with life. In fact, it creates the illusion
of separateness, the illusion that there is you and a totally separate other.
Religious
superiority widens gap and build tensions. Some religious sects think that
their religion is true and superior and others are all false. For example,
Muslims think Islam is a true religion and all others are false. Because of
these differences, religious tensions, racisms, gaps, problems, and violence are
widely spread. The perennial conflicts between Muslims and Buddhists in Burma
make thousands of families unhappy. British colonizers used Christian
missionaries to colonized people’s minds. The history of wars tells us that all wars are based on religious rifts and
conflicts. For example, the religious atrocities between Sunnis and Shiites groups
tear a thousand lives into pieces. The
early European conflict between
Protestant Christian and Catholic Church from 1524 to 1648 and the Crusades
wars are some examples of the cause of religious wars.
I am not against any religions, but I am against
its principles, its sects, its confine customs. It confines to harm oneself internally than
alleviating life. It prohibits freedom of doing, enjoying without harming
others too. I am against its superfluous interpretation sometimes, and
some of its interpretation from some half-baked religious practioneers.
The second
obstruction to a happy life is society, and its people around you. To live life according to the control of
others, to rely on others' opinions, to conform, and not being true to yourself
is so paltry, and you lead a pitiful life. You mask your face, you imitate the
pattern. You have no creative pattern of your own. You never improve because of
these people and society. They rather devalue individualism. It’s difficult to
mind your own business, think about yourself, believe in yourself, and lead a
happy life. For example, you like fashion, and you learn about it. That is your
interest. You will do a different thing from your villagers. But your
environment lacerates you. You must walk the same trodden path. You don’t have
your own small path. What a heck? There is no ‘self.’ You, rather, live in the
mix of anxious shadows of shame, unworthiness, rage, mistrust, rejection,
desolation that can simmer yourself below the face value.
True happiness is self-reliant, who listens to
himself, not the society, others’ bullshits; your neighbor, your environment.
Last weakened, I watched a gripping movie “The Stoning of Soraya M.” This true
story of “The Stoning of Soraya M” is the tale of horrific injustice from the
feigned society. It represents the stilled practice and the norms of the
society in many Middle East countries. The story occurs in a village where
stoning as capital punishment rides away from the happiness of women and men as well.
Zahra's revelation to French journalists of the stoning of Soraya is the revolutions
to the secret evils of the sadistic misogynist society that fabricate with many
superstitious beliefs that terrorize and execute a woman brutally.
The third
obstruction to happiness is material development. Development materially doesn’t bring
happiness. For example, the development of road networks brings harm to the
environment. Wanting happiness is not doing away with desire, but being
self-contained. Self-reliance doesn’t mean economic self-reliance. It’s the
individual self-satisfaction, the mental self-realization. You’re poor;
because you think you’re poor, or because you cannot save what you get. What
richness and position do with a life? It’s just a psyche, and just the basic way
of living a life is enough to be happy. There are many clutches to be freed,
which are sorts of a hindrance to our happiness. You want things, and it's okay
to want things and to want to succeed, but tell yourself that you’ll be happy
without them.
A development like technology and media instead brings more depression. For
example, you tend to imitate the movie, which is the reflection but not real
life. You hunt for movie-like life and feel depressed when you don’t fulfill.
Development furthers you away from life. Social media like Facebook is
bringing more harm. It not only erodes human values like love, relationship,
ethic, etc, but it also kills a lot of time. In a New Year riverside families
gathering, I had seen a man engaged his whole day with his laptop on Facebook. His
family connection is completely lost. The family concern is not given any
importance.
Happiness is also
a good relationship. Happy wife,
happy life, or, happy husband, happy life. A virtuous relationship, a good sex
life, a good understanding make a happy life. They are the basic sources of
happiness at times. Good relation includes not only with your family, but also
everything that surrounds you; your dog or animals, your home or house, your
kitchen garden, your friends, your neighbors, your environment, everything
around you. Worry about your own family,
your own sons and daughters at home than worrying about the Dafur war or Somalia
hunger. You worry so much more about outside than your inside world bringing
unhappy pictures to your life, to your spouse, to your family. You watch more
programs on television than you watch your family or neighbor. You talk more
about the world’s problems than your own family matter or with your neighbor.
You barricade your neighbor with a wall. You bother more about other buildings
than your own. You don’t know your next-door people. You create such an awkward
environment where you live. The world has fallen apart. This city life is
fast sweeping in rural country. You compare so much: you compare your spouse
with another, you compare your relationship with that of others, you compare
your children with movies or some other best children, you compare life as a whole. You live in a world of comparison, and when you compare, you compare
what is not in you. Sometimes, being self-righteous, being individualistic, and
being contained are the ways of living.
The Gross
National Happiness pillars themselves are the very obvious manifestations of
immeasurable deterrence to happiness.
To bring an equitable and equal socio-economic development, there need to be
sacrificed made to the environment, cultural and spiritual heritage. Equal
economic development is not attainable, and even fair equality cannot be
achieved if so. To have equality, your mind has to be tamed first. Preservation
and promotion of cultural and spiritual heritage help you only to go backcountry to its primitive. And they cannot be barred. Imported cultures make you
happier, and feel a sense of development and belongingness. How many of you
don’t like to watch Holywood movies? How many of you like to impress others
with the typical accent of words? How many of you don’t want to pursue western
education? How many of you still want to read kanjur and tenjur in your room?
How many of you want to adopt, and change? The questions continue, and these
questions are not the recipe of happiness, but pillars to a happy life.
Countess of Blessington says, “There is no cosmetic for beauty like happiness.”
It’s true.
You cannot be taught values, aesthetics, and
spiritual traditions – the so-called pillars of happiness; they must practice of your own.
You cannot say governance is good governance.
Your good governance will be another’s bad government. Government and
bureaucracy comprise of many antagonistic characters or sinecures workers in
them, and the so-called upholders of rules and regulations are themselves
perpetrators in the country. The recent political parties are braying out so
many false promises to woo voters. And the example of asking Solera/Kidu by Druk
Phuensum Tshogpa’s Prime minister unashamedly for the Kidu of Prado (people’s)
cars to them from the king is inapt. Kidus is only meant for the unfortunate
poor. Is this good governance? On the pretext of keeping old customs and
traditions, there are many corruptions, nepotism, and sycophancy.
To have good governance, people work to the
maximum trying to get good governance. A very bad life has to be lived to gain
good governance. The tough National Assembly discussions project the image of
the governance. The civil rights movement, anti-corruption moves, fraternity, and equality are all sores of the human desire to change the system without
changing themselves.
So What’s Happiness?
The
precept of happiness is being kind, loving, and being true to yourself. It’s in
other words, self-loving, self-kindness, self-forgiveness, self-preserving,
self-protection, and non-self-judgment or association. You need love and
appreciation. But you cannot find them in others. You find in yourself. You make happy yourself. And then you can only please others. Do first what pleases you without harming others. You build yourself empathy and compassion
within yourself, and this can ultimately lead to self-satisfaction,
fearlessness, confidence, and strength to any other account.
So, happiness is no hue and cries about GNH
parameters, religious dogmas, no outside world, no comparison, no imaginary
beliefs, but it’s a simple basic necessity life of yours only.
Bertrand Russel
says in his book, The Conquest of Happiness: "A man who has once
perceived, however temporarily and however briefly, what makes the greatness of a soul can no longer be happy if he allows himself to be petty, self-seeking,
troubled by trivial misfortunes, dreading what fate may have in store for him.
The man capable of the greatness of soul will open wide the windows of his mind,
letting the winds blow freely upon it from every portion of the universe."
Note: This article is not fully baseless, but quite
analytical. It’s not so well researched but has argumentative aspects. The
writer’s view doesn’t go against any individuals, sects, or the
government, nor does it challenge any facts. But it is a personal defiant of
the concepts described. The essay will be continued soon.
“If with a pure
mind you speak or act, then happiness follows you as a shadow that never departs.”
(The Buddha)
