Give, and you Shall be Given Kick.

If you give anything free, you will be misrepresented and wronged someday. I have learned this, that free without heart kills. DPT is right in some ways. Go on banning Druk Prohibition Party (DPT), if you win the next time.

Sometimes, religious philosophies mislead you. Says the religions, “Give, and it shall be given to you (Luke 6: 38),” “Give to those needy poor (a common Buddhist saying),” and etc. The truth is everyone needs; the rich need to get richer and the poor battle to become richer.

Give. I bet these human species will not give you back. They have learned to take and forget the good deeds. I have never heard anyone who has got so much free just like that. This freeness creates misapprehension in relationships as well. Because of giving, I lost many people in my life. One was my relatives, whom he had smilingly borrowed Nu.10, 000, but later he stopped talking with my family. I have had many grave experiences in my life like this. There was a boy. This crook has a grouchy mouth and has a habit of showing very bad behaviors. I taught him to be free many times. I expected nothing, but I was afraid of kicks. The Bhutanese has a saying, if you raise a horse, you will only get kicks. And the next time he asked me again. I have a job too. He became so dependent and so lazy that he couldn’t even read a single line from a book. The more I tell him to learn and improve himself, the more dependent he becomes. He wouldn’t listen. That’s how he gets angry. Now, I am considered mean and selfish, and he gets me wrong, and I get myself into a most awkward predicament, and I was in a problem, not him, at times.

Last time, we had a guest lecture, and it was free. Nobody attended it because it was free. Free seems to be worthless sometimes. Sharchops word for free is ‘Tongpa,’ and it literally means nothing, an empty. You have got to think about this.

This freeness has become an impediment to a peaceful life. Everything in life doesn’t come free as we think. Everything is cost-effective. It's do and get, pay and receive, not all the time receiving. Learn to give back. The receiver becomes lazy and dependent. The Buddhist teaching says that to reach an enlightened state, and if you want to see the door of heaven, one mustn’t search for and receive free but submit to get freedom.

In giving anything free, I feel we must take into some considerations, which I have listed as per my own experience.

1.      Why do you give free?

2.      How to give it?

3.      What will be the consequences?

4.      Future position?

5.      Only give it twice or thrice, and you will know the person. If you do every time, you are a fool.

I support DPT for their forceful and valid way of banning many things to bring to the right track. Go on DPT. And PDP (People’s Dead Party) farcically gives deadly attacks and deadly promises to kill DPT’s banning. Here is a small, a favorite joke of mine, where Prime Minister Jigme Y. Thinley (JYT) proudly declared in one of the gatherings before the 2008 election in Nanong. He said that there are three ‘JIGMEs’ in Bhutan, in which the country may not function if two are missing; the BIG Jigme (the king), the Small Jigme (JYT), and the Smaller Jigme (JD) who is not in the picture. The survival of smaller Jigme makes me laugh. The smaller Jigme survives his life beating his goat skin-coated Dramyang (Bhutanese guitar).

This autocratic statement by JYT to the Bhutanese media was really striking and strong.  (Click for more info. The Bhutanese). He warned media house owners and also accused the media of creating disharmony and spoiling the country’s image. The DPT President said, “I will not leave you.” I am with him. The media will become strong. Facts and concrete prove will be reported. The freedom of the press doesn’t mean that they have the freedom to give false information or news to the public. In a free society and especially democratic rule, we should not take offense at our beliefs or wrongs being criticized. That is the hallmark of a healthy vibrant democracy. Though, censorship and banning is the character of totalitarianism. Yet some standards of totalitarianism regime must not be allowed to drop, if so, that would bring hatred and stifle the very liberal ideas of a vibrant democracy. The cost of freedom comes with the cost of sacrificing another.

Some media must be banned to have a humane lifestyle in society. Some harmful social media like Facebook, Omega, etc, kill times, distract life, erode culture, and direct a false life. China had banned many such media to bring goodness to the country. We too can live without some of these harmful channels. If we can ban, we are moving forward, not backward; to a civilized;  culturally, and socially attached life. Banning Tobacco has a significant benefit, and it was the right move. Ban. Ban freedom to understand what freedom is, and to value freedom. Ban.