Saturday, November 1, 2014

A Dissipated Life-A Story of Love and Sacrifice

A dog chased Latu out of the school gate. The dog growled close behind him for some time. Latu leaned against a tree and threw a slice of bread. The dog ran after it and munched greedily. Then it stayed quiet.

"This dog can become friendly after so many days," Latu thought.

The day had been brutal. By evening, the wind broke tree branches, clouds showered heavy rain, and thunder rumbled loudly. Latu was alone on his way home. But not really his home. Before long, he found himself on the path to an unknown journey—his actual, unfamiliar road. The heavy downpour soaked his body.

There, in an unknown place, Latu felt lost. He climbed a trembling treetop to see his home's light. He saw a faint glow, miles away. He didn't know where he was now. He only knew he was deep in a jungle. This was his first journey alone. His friend Kagtong was bedridden and couldn't come to school on the first day. Since Latu's parents had gone for training in a foreign land, he had been sent to this village to study. Only three days had passed since he arrived from the capital of Bhutan. He was to stay with his aging grandparents in this village.

Now, Latu listened and scanned every direction of the jungle. He was scared of ghosts and spooky things in the deep forest. He was afraid of wild animals. Latu was late today because of the distribution of textbooks—it was the first day of school, and as a new student, he received his books last.

It was already seven in the evening. He ran wildly wherever his thoughts took him. It was the fastest run he had ever made. Before he collapsed on the ground with exhaustion, he saw a house in front of him. It was built of stone and mud, with a thatched roof. He wanted to ask whoever lived there to direct him home. With great relief, he went inside. He pushed open the ajar door and was greeted by a young girl his age. She was cooking something. Seeing an uninvited guest, she shouted in fright for a moment.

He looked at her, thirsty and desperate. Dazzled and stunned, he saw that she was a simple-looking, slim girl with bunched hair—utterly lovely. He stood there speechless.

"Oh God, to be loved by her!"

"Who are you?" she mumbled.

"I have never seen such a girl in Thimphu," Latu burst out without thinking.

"What!"

The heavy rain suddenly softened to a drizzle. The pit-a-pat of the raindrops became like love. The wind became a breeze. The thunder became music. Everything turned into a trance of love and longing. He felt that today, tomorrow, next week, next month, or someday—he wanted to be with her. He watched her, and his happiness exploded.

She asked him many questions, which only made him more blank. He looked at her lips and her eyes. They were perfect. An angel had visited a poor home.

"I just wanted to ask you the way to Memey Dogdola's house," Latu quivered.

"Oh, you're the new guy from Thimphu, here to study. Go seven steps down from my house, then take the straight path to the right." She beamed.

"Okay, okay, I'll come tomorrow," he said hurriedly, hearing some noises outside.

Latu counted down the steps gladly when a powerful torchlight from the right side forced him to stop. His face was now in full light.

"So when we're away, this is what our daughter has been doing?" a man sneered.

It was her father and mother.

"Oh no, I came here to ask my way home," Latu said quickly.

"Who are you?" a woman's voice asked, flashing her torchlight on Latu's face.

"I'm Memey Dogdola's grandson," he said, and hurried away while they murmured and went inside.

He felt an awful emptiness walking home as the rain beat down. He could only hear his own heartbeat. Once he reached home, Latu sat at his desk and pretended to study so his Memey wouldn't question him. Inside his mind, he could think of nothing but that girl.

The next day, Latu met her. To his great surprise, she was there too—at the same school, Nangkor High School, in the same ninth grade.

"I didn't see you the first day," Latu said in class.

"Yes, I stayed home helping my parents." Her soft breath entered his heart.

"I'm Latu Tshering. And you?"

"Choden."

Soon they became good friends. They shared everything under the sun. Everything was perfect, especially their romance. Their relationship developed a bond that was hard to break. Their days became the shortest and happiest of their lives after they found each other. It became Latu's daily routine: whatever the weather, whatever the troubles at night, he would quietly go and spend his evening at her house.

A year or so passed. After a few rare discussions about their future, they decided to drop out of school and get married. Their reasons were that they couldn't study properly and were held back in the same grade, that teachers complained about their behavior, and that their parents frequently reminded them they were wasting money.

After a year of married life, Choden spoke as if she had changed her mind.

"My Ajang Karpo asked me to come to Thimphu," she said.

"For what?"

"To find a job. To be honest, if we stay like this, our life will be ruined in this village. He found me a job."

"No, how can you go? You and me—we will start together, work together, survive together," Latu sighed.

"I'll come back and get you after I find a job. Maybe a month."

And that was how she left—without giving him time to show how much he loved her.

He hated those who chatted with her. Jealousy was a crazed love. He had noticed it back in their school days. Now she was gone—very far away.

To pour out his desperation, Latu gained the courage to write a letter every day. He wrote long letters about their past, cheered her up endlessly. He told her everything, gave his heart and soul. He wrote how she had broken his heart when she left. He wrote of his hope to see her soon. They had no secrets. His only real fear was that they might one day lose each other without ever being together again.

Days went by, incredibly okay. She wrote back. She promised she would find a job and return to him. She asked him to wait another two months. She wrote that they would make a comfortable life with the money she earned.

Their foam-like love lasted three months. Latu wrote almost every day. But her letters grew fewer—one or two a month. Then months passed. Then he received none. Latu was in hell. Those trances of happiness and charm vanished forever when he heard from village gossip that she had been found floating in the Thimphu River.

Life was dead. The paths were blurred. Silent traces of memory killed him—memories shut to his chest, to be valued and cherished, until he could bear it no longer. It was a nightmare. He couldn't accept that after so many months of love, she was gone, leaving nothing but grief to show she had ever been there.

Why should she leave when there was so much beauty in her, so much life to be lived, so much love she had received?

He walked out on all his dreams.

He cried in defeat.

Three days later, her Ajang Karpo gave him a small note found in her room. It read:

Dear Loving Latu,

The truth of life is sometimes hard to tell, especially when one has so much love. I know my life. I separated from you on purpose. I hope you will understand. My short life was shortened by brain cancer. I had only another month to live. I couldn't bear to see you watch me die. So I ended my life in the water, far from you.

Start a new life, Latu. I am sorry we could not grow old together. The little savings I have are in your name.

Yours always,
Choden

Latu sweated with cold tears.

Sunday, October 26, 2014

Moelam Choemo


A five-day Moelam Choemo was conducted at Gedu HSS ground—seven kilometers from Darla, where I currently reside, eat, sleep, and occasionally remember to water my plants.

It just got over yesterday. The ritual was headed by Je Khenpo and the central monastic body. A grand affair. Lots of chanting. Lots of incense. Lots of spiritual energy floating around like happy ghosts.

Moelam Choemo was conducted to bring peace and prosperity to the country and its people. May it work. May the roads improve. May the price of cooking oil drop. May my internet stop disconnecting every time a bird sneezes.


Darla school served devotees lunch for one full day. Just one day. But oh, what a day.

It was tedious. Not "oh, I have to fold laundry" tedious. Not "waiting for the bus in the rain" tedious. No. It was serve thousands of devotees tedious. A level of tedious that deserves its own medal.

Thousands. With spoons. And expectations. And second helpings.

We scooped. We smiled. We ran out of rice. We found more rice. We ran out of vegetables. We panicked. We found more vegetables. We considered adding a "one plate per person" rule, but then remembered we are Buddhists and also too tired to argue.

By the end of the day, my arm felt like I had been stirring the ocean with a ladle. My back had formed its own opinion about my life choices. And my soul—my poor, spiritual, Moelam-Choemo-blessed soul—just wanted to lie down and not look at food for at least twelve hours.


Here are some shots of the day. (See attached photos of chaos, kindness, and the world's longest buffet line.)

May the merits of our service bring peace and prosperity. And also, please, no more lunch duty for at least another year.

Tashi Delek. Now let me go find my bed.

Here are some shots of the day. (See attached photos of chaos, kindness, and the world's longest buffet line.)

May the merits of our service bring peace and prosperity. And also, please, no more lunch duty for at least another year.

Tashi Delek. Now let me go find my bed. 
Mat of grasses, twigs and branches
Train of People

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Teachers on Leave



December Doldrums: Where Energy Goes to Die

Just as the year is about to come to an end, people's energy and synergy are dwindling. Dwindling like last month's salary. Dwindling like my patience during staff meetings.

The main reason? They have been so actively involved and working hard for almost nine months. Nine months. That's longer than a pregnancy, and arguably more painful. It's now time for a rest. A little drop-off from laborious and taxing works. A small, humble, please-God-let-me-sleep break.

Because a teacher's job is so heavy that even an undertaker boxer—you know, the kind who lifts coffins for a living—would be able to lift it only for a second. And then he would put it down and walk away slowly, possibly crying.

We need lots of free periods to deliver quality lessons. But do we get them? No. We get back-to-back classes, meetings about meetings, and lesson plans that ask us why we didn't submit the previous plans.

And Then There's the Moelam Choemo Factor

Another reason for the leaves nowadays is the ongoing Moelam Choemo in Gedu, seven kilometers from Darla school. Seven kilometers. A perfectly walkable distance. But apparently, it requires full-day leave and a spiritual passport.

Many devotee teachers are attending the ceremony there. Praying for peace and prosperity. Which is noble. Which is good. Which leaves the rest of us drowning in their absent bodies.

The Great Leave Escape

Complying with hard works—or perhaps escaping from them—teachers have begun to take leave from their works. Today, 12 teachers have taken casual leave. Twelve. That's the whole of a Lower Secondary school. If a school falls in a forest and no teachers are there to teach, does it make a sound? Yes. It's the sound of substitutes crying.

When such leaves are taken, substitutions come like battalions. Relentless. Unforgiving. Leaving one with no ways to catnap for clear teaching for the next class. No gap. No breathing. No five minutes to stare at the wall and question your career choices.

Meanwhile, the leave-takers? They would have taken forty winks like naps. Peaceful. Blissful. Probably dreaming of Moelam Choemo blessings.

And we? We are inflamed. Burning. Steaming like a kettle left on too long.

So here's to the end of the year. May it come quickly. May the leaves be balanced. And may the substitutes survive.

Deep breath. Red pen. Next class.


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Thursday, October 16, 2014

Global Hand Washing Day



Darla's banner
Three Days of Hand Washing: Because Two Just Wasn't Enough!




Coinciding with International Hand Washing Day—yes, that's a real thing, apparently—Darla school celebrated Hand Washing Day for three consecutive days. Not one. Not two. Three. Because when it comes to hygiene, we believe in overkill.

The school Health Committee invited the Health Assistant (HA) of Darla Gewog to say a few words on the importance of washing hands. He arrived, probably with very clean hands, and highlighted a sobering fact: a number of people die due to not cleaning their hands. Die. From dirty hands. Let that sink in next time you skip the soap.

He also talked to the assembly of students and teachers—a captive audience, literally—stating that the main cause of any disease is simply not being willing to wash their hands properly. Not inability. Not lack of water. Lack of will. We have the will to scroll through YouTube for three hours, but not to rub soap between our fingers for twenty seconds. Priorities.

Global Hand Washing Day underscores the importance of handwashing regularly with soap and water as one of the most effective and affordable health interventions. Affordable is the key word here. Soap costs less than a packet of instant noodles. And yet, here we are.

Hand washing helps fight many kinds of diseases and helps us stay healthy. But I feel—and forgive my philosophical detour—that the literal meaning of "clean hands" goes beyond washing away dirt. It could also mean clean hands from stealing. Clean hands from touching unwanted things. In fact, we need a clean mind so that we can have clean hands. Otherwise, you could scrub until your skin falls off, but if your mind is still rummaging through other people's belongings, are you really clean?

Cue dramatic pause and the sound of running water.

Anyway. Back to the Soap Fest.

There are many programs for the days. Today, Class XB gave hand washing demonstrations. Twelve techniques. Twelve. I didn't know there were twelve ways to wash hands. I've been using one technique my whole life—the "rub and hope" method—and apparently, I am an amateur.

There is hand washing for every class. Every single class. Each class was asked to bring jerry cans and make T-P holes (tap holes) for the days—and to be kept for the entire year. We did. There are now jerry cans lined up like soldiers. Some leak. Some are too high for small children. Some may never be used again after this week. But they are there. And they are beautiful.

Here are some snapshots of what's happening now:

(Soap. Water. Children trying to remember twelve techniques. Teachers trying to remember why they became teachers. And one HA wondering if anyone is actually listening.)

Clean hands. Clean minds. And three days well spent.


My class IV B students


Jerrycans with T-P holes

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

True Faith and Love for God



People have all kinds of ideas about religion. Some think heaven is up there, hell is down there, and God is… somewhere over the rainbow. Beliefs vary. Faith in gods fluctuates more than my internet connection—and trust me, that’s saying something.

But here's what I think: you don't need to worship idols, chant verses you don't understand, obey kings (especially the grumpy ones), speak eloquently, or even look good. All you need is confidence in God's power and will. Just faithfulness. That's it. Simple, right?

Sometimes God brings tragedy. Sometimes deliverance. Mostly, though, He brings confusion. And silence. And a lot of waiting around wondering if you missed a sign that was actually just a pigeon.

People complain, "God punished me even though I believed!" They say, He doesn't watch every little detail of our lives. Oh no, I think He’s definitely watching. The real problem is man's magnification of himself—we just don't see our own hearts. We blame God for the mess we made while eating midnight snacks we knew were bad for us.

God's grace is always sufficient. He's not in some distant, unknowable realm. He's in your heart. Which is convenient, because that's also where your indigestion lives. Multitasking, I guess.

Now, let me tell you about my own turn of life. During my training, I had to go to a random unknown place for teaching practice. Thanks to faith (or sheer luck dressed in piety), I met my life partner there. A blessing in disguise. I asked God for a reason. The reason He gave was beyond my imagination—mostly because He didn't give one. But the point is: God gives everything, often at crossroads, with a milestone effect. I asked for a blessing. I got a wife. Fair trade. No returns, no exchange.

The basic principle of all religions is the same: Dharma—the law of the self. So I respect all religions. I hate none. Habits change, rituals differ, and some religious outfits are seriously uncomfortable. But no religion sustains forever. That's why the guiding principle—Dharma—applies to all ages. Convenient, since we keep forgetting it.

What the world needs today is not dogmatic beliefs. Man can live without religion. But Dharma? That's essential. Self-awakening? Even more so. If a person lives without selfishness, they can become divine—or at least tolerable at parties.

We want higher consciousness. Prayer helps. The power of prayer is supreme. It leads the world. It saves us from calamities and chaos. Prayer without common sense is just wishful thinking with extra steps.

Love is the basis for prayer. Prayer expands your canvas. Religion, at its best, teaches us to become conscious, good, and compassionate humans. 

The seeds and deeds of religion are souls. Outward worship is just conceited theater when there's no inner transformation. You can fold your hands all day, but if your heart is still a mess, you're basically a beautifully wrapped box of nothing.