Thursday, April 12, 2012

The Pain of Missing



My loving place,
I would like to go.
My mind inclines there always—
but here I am.
Under the control of life,
control of human.
What I have decided:
to face.
Thinking of my home,
streams of tears fall.


Once the lovely secrets I had—
I regret now I had not told you.
And the faithless acts I had done—
I regret.
Forcing the times, I don't think I would.
Throttling the feelings of pains,
thinking of you,
tears drop relentlessly.


What is this for?
Samsaric is the world for me.
Wherever I go,
it is sadness only.
There is no ending to my sorrows.


Even if we come together
because of the fate we have,
we have to part.
Growing through these sorrows,
life's ending.
I pray to God:
What's wrong with this?
Look after me.
(And if possible, send snacks.)

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Over Beautiful, Over Dirty


My classmate who had dropped out of school after sixth standard was sitting in my car. Karpola was his name. Yes, Karpola—which means "white"—though his face looked like it had been through a coal mine and then left in the dark for good measure. He had his own dark flashback of a life. He was coming for the first time to Thimphu, the capital city of Bhutan. All his life, he had been married to his village: Labar, Pema Gatshel. Sweating over keeping his dependents alive—farming, carrying heavy loads, and living in a dark home to match his dark face. A mundane, shit-stained life. The main reason for dropping out? Financial problems. Over and above that, he lived with his old stepfather—a professional alcoholic who regularly bet Karpola's mother in drunken card games. (I'm not joking. He actually put her as a bet. Lost her twice on Tuesdays.) Karpola had to take over everything. His mother's sole survival fell on him like a sack of wet rice.

But me? I had studied. I had a job now. We met after seven or so years. My parents' house sat on one lone hill; his sat over the next. We weren't overnight friends—we were infant friends. Same mud, same lice. After talking, he agreed to come for a break from what he called "over cowly life" in the village to Thimphu with me. Visiting Thimphu was his life's dream. And this could be the dream. He was bubbling over with excitement—and also with some unidentified gas from village beans.

We traveled one of the longest journeys. Most of the time, he slept inside the car, being ill from dizziness. On the way, he kept saying, "You overdrive." I overruled him. 50-60 km/hr was average speed, for God's sake. I wasn't racing a wild yak.

Near Thimphu city, we washed our faces fresh. I asked him to be watchful of his dreamland. For a better view, I drove him via Semtokha road. He opened his mouth. His tongue stuck out like a dying lizard as his eyes ran over every corner of the valley. Down the big lane—hundreds of cars, hundreds of crowded buildings. He pushed out, "Oh, over cars! More than cows in my village." I laughed. My bladder almost gave up.

We crossed Lungtenphug and saw the whole face of Thimphu. He looked at the city with his poking eyes, craned his neck through the car window like a turtle trying to escape. He looked arrestingly overwhelmed. "This is over beautiful," he noised into the air. "You misused the preposition," I said, laughing. "We say the most beautiful." "Anyway, this is over beautiful," he muttered. I gave up. Some battles are not worth fighting.

"We can see this place from outside," I fawned over him. "Let's check inside." I liked to lord it over my friend. We entered town, parked at the side of the road. Now the man from the uptown world was roaming the downtown world. We reached the farmer's market. I tried to paper over the cracks, but he had a habit of drooling over every nook and corner. That was where he got petrified. Somewhat allergic to his own dream. His face clouded over like a monsoon sky.

"This is over dirty," he announced. "Beautiful buildings, clean people, clean cars—but over dirty drains, over smelly, over wrappers, over papers, whatnot all over the places." He did me over as if I had personally hand-delivered this mess. I once again corrected him—this time with a sense of responsibility and shame for the place I had been fussing over. "You can just say dirty," I said. He looked at me like I had grown a second head.

My far cousin lived in Changjiji. We slept over for some days while I handled my spinning administrative works at the Education Ministry. Karpola, seeing all kinds of people, felt happy to mix in the mixture. I wanted him to experience city life. One night, we went over with a bang to a discotheque. Big mistake. We saw gangs of youth drunk, hauling over the coals, and soon breaking into a fight. A bottle flew past my ear. Someone's underwear was somehow on the ceiling. "This is over dangerous!" he cried. I lost my words. My intention was to show him another side of life—comfort, beauty, internal peaceful coexistence—but it turned all over. Karpola's habitual use of "over" put me in deep thinking.

The other night, I lay down on my bed and mulled over the word over. I doubled over with a hearty laugh thinking about it. But this wasn't a laughing matter. Was it? I came up with so many reasons. One could look externally beautiful but have dirty interiors—like a fancy hotel with a rat in the soup. The difference between "over" and "normal" was like having two faces of a person. Everything overly over is bad. Overeating? Bad. Overdrinking? Bad. Overusing "over"? Karpola was a walking lesson. But then again, over and over trying makes success. So maybe he was a genius.

After a week's stay, he decided to go home. He had a sort of hangover for his village. "My village is over normal," he said. He seemed head over heels in love with his countryside. I drew a veil over the subject. Karpola's eyes glazed over as if he was over and done with Thimphu's vigor. He got over with his dream—a rather betraying dream—and went back to his village. I didn't think he would be happy to spill over the news of his visit to his village mates. But knowing him, he probably told them Thimphu was "over dirty" and that I lived in a toilet.

I dropped him at the bus station. I had to return the next morning to Gedu. As his bus pulled away, he stuck his head out the window and yelled one last time: "You overdrive!" Then he was gone. I sat in my car for five minutes, laughing like an idiot. Then I drove back—at 50 km/hr.

Sunday, April 8, 2012

Everything



An enraptured piece of mind,
surrounded by happiness today.
My mind—
so much transported and euphoric,
entirely contented.



In this heaven-like earth,
my angel here,
in front of me today—
I wish every day to be.



My birth here was happy,
and luckier to meet you.
No wealth is desirable than you.
The wealth of having you
is the wealth I treasure.
No wealth can substitute you.



My faithful lover,
you will take me through life—
ups and downs.
And I thank you,
and never forget,
for fulfilling my dream.



My only wish
is to keep you happy.
The above gods and goddesses
wish us
with mindfulness of happiness
and feelings of consideration.
To my heaven-sent lover:
wish with no ills and troubles,
because I care for you more than any wealth in the world.



Note: This poem is the very rough adaptation of Bardo’s song.


Saturday, April 7, 2012

Lama Rinpochea

Dungse Thinley Norbu Rinpoche (1931–2011) was an influential modern Buddhist teacher in the lineage of Tibetan Buddhism and a great patron of the Vajrayana Foundation. He was the eldest son of Dudjom Rinpoche, the former head of the Nyingma lineages, and also the father of Dzongsar Jamyang Khyentse Rinpoche and Garab Rinpoche (known for his Terma Tshogpa). He wrote many books on Buddhism, including White Sail: Crossing the Waves of Ocean Mind to the Serene Continent of the Triple Gems.

Dungse Rinpoche passed away in America, and his kudung (sacred body) was brought to Bhutan, where it was kept for the wellbeing of the Bhutanese people for one month.

I was present in Paro (Lango) when his kudung was cremated. Thousands of devotees gathered—it was said that more than 20,000 to 30,000 people attended. Some arrived as early as 2 AM to secure a spot as close as possible. Those who came late had to perch on caves and rugged terrain. Buddhists believe that Rinpoche was an incarnation of Guru Rinpoche himself.

Below are the photos taken on Mechay day.

In the darkness, shines through Rinpoche's Kudung

Sanctuary in the sanctum



Have a close look, who is he? Politics in religion
Ah…oh wondering minstrel
Taking kudung in a Bhutanese procession
Swapping body into smoke, an evanescent of life. Many people cried at this time. It was an emotionally poignant moment.
People rising up to inhale the smoke and to show veneration
This is how rich people misuse the space-the good space while people have to parch on the rocks and in the trees.
Smoky to be on fire
Many Neljorpas tents camped around the place
On the way back home the famous Paro Dzong stands rain or shines for hundreds of years. My son’s son would be fortunate enough to see the same Dzong. I said this to my son and he unhappily said to me that I will turn into smoke and disappear. My heart broke apart for sometimes to tear away especially from my beloved people and the earth. But who am I? The great Rinpoche has the same fate.
Forget the dying for now. Live now or never, I told my family. So, we mingle in the tingling town in Paro town for some time. It really is a tingling town, the prices of the things made our head tingle. Those non-eating chilies Chilips tourists have inflated by buying of no use things.
The next day, we went to Phuntsholing to have gracing and blessing from Lam Chime. Lam Chime resides in Sikkim and is the main leader of Theorma Tshogpa in Bhutan. Lam is living for his devotees at this die-able age with his wife. Not all photos were clear and I think it was the cognizant nature of Lama to blur his image for an errant person like me!
And the wheel of the life rolls on and on...and kick the bucket unknown known, unlike Lama rinpoche.