Alcohol and Drinking in Bhutan

A group drinks to celebrate Rimdro together

Alcohol is one of the most used and a misused drugs known to man. It is a social issue. The habit of drinking had wrapped its arms around our society and is slowly strangling society. It has disastrous effects on health, career and one’s family life.

One reason why alcohol is misused is that it is accepted in society. People drink to be sociable. Many restaurants and shops offer alcohol on their menus. Alcohol is usually included in celebrations or family and social gatherings. For example, we cannot do away with alcohol items during Rimdros.

Drinking is picked up at an early age just for the sake of fun or fashion. It is usually shown by parents. Children copy their parents, elders and try the drinks secretly. By and by the casual drinkers become chain drinkers. It becomes a habit that dies hard. The drinker thinks that it has become necessary for him. He argues that drinking eases his tension and helps him concentrate his mind on problems of serious nature. His mistaken belief costs him money as well as health. Drinking, they say, causes cancer. It is injurious to health. But the hardened drinker listens to no advice or warning. He can give up this evil provided he builds up his willpower. He takes offense if you advise him.

One of the risks of alcohol abuse is health problems. The leading cause of death is cirrhosis of the liver.  Not only that alcohol also causes damage to the brain, heart, kidneys, and digestive system. Cancer of the mouth, throat, esophagus, liver, and stomach becomes a threat as well. The well known south Indian actor Kalabhavan Mani dies from alcohol recently. Mani was 45 years old, and he knew he has liver cirrhosis. Instead of making it his priority not to consume alcohol, he forces himself to drink. He was not a child to be forced to do something he does not want to do.

Lately, scientists have been saying that a little bit of alcohol with dinner is not only okay but it is also good for you. This is true in moderation.  They say that if you drink a small amount of alcohol it will help you sleep. Also if you drink a moderate amount every day it can help your health in the long run. A moderate amount is considered to be 1 drink for women daily and 2 drinks for men daily. This can help bring your HDL level up, which helps protect your heart against disease that causes heart attacks. Also a moderate amount of alcohol every day can lower your risk of developing diabetes by increasing your insulin sensitivity. It can also raise ‘good cholesterol’ levels.

If you take advantage of that and drink in excess there are effects on the health. It calms you down and slows down some organs in your body. Alcohol, therefore, has short-term effects on your body. If you are addicted to alcohol or drink a lot of alcohol for a long period of time you will shorten your life span by about 12 years, and get a lot of serious side effects. 

Alcoholism can definitely take a toll and causes them in their workplace, and even lose their career. The ‘hangovers’ sleep late and wake up late, and once they are in their workplace, they only hang back. The works are stalled as they malingered.

As a result of alcohol abuse, children and other family members are being mistreated. Alcoholics are causing spousal abuse, and in some cases, even death. There are many women in RENEW, who are badly beaten by their husbands. Families are being destroyed and children are living a life full of suffering. Alcohol totally consumes them; all their thoughts and actions are somehow associated with the drug. Personal relationships can be torn apart. The consequences of alcohol misuse are serious in many cases; it has an effect on self, towards their family and friends, and children maltreatment. Many rapes in Bhutan are related to alcoholism.

Alcohol is the most accessible in all places. Easy access to alcohol is a key reason why alcohol abuse and alcoholism are such a common problems in Bhutan. Alcohol abuse means drinking more alcohol than is socially, psychologically, or physically healthy. In Bhutan, alcoholism is associated with a kind of "manhood. We have passion for spurious liquor is in line with all those 3rd rate characters who are shown in the movies and roam in the street; who pride themselves at consuming such so-called liquor and going around. We admire our life, and enjoyed drinks. But it would be a foolish death to die from alcohol.

Human Values Workshop

Darla school staff attended Human Values Workshop in Gedu for three days beginning from 13-15^th of August. I am reproducing some important topics that the workshop covered during these three days. When there was a feedback session, everyone said how changed everyone was at the end of the workshop. In the beginning, the content was similar to our eight-fold paths, and it actually was derived from there.

The session starts with this proposal, an ambiguous one:

“Whatever is said is a Proposal (Do not assume it to be true/false)

Verify it on Your Own Right – on the basis of your Natural Acceptance “

It also defines the role of education.

“The role of education is to facilitate the development of the competence to live with Definite Human Conduct.”

And transformation is equal to development as far as the workshop. This is the diagrammatic summary of human values.

Transformation = Development

Right Understanding is all we need

And Preconditioning leads to many undesirable activities

 

The self and body...i like this part the most. Everything submerges in the space. Where does the self go from the space? 

Darling, Be Daring

I wrote this poem dedicating to my new blog titled: ‘Darling, Be daring.’ My previous title was ‘a wise voice.’

On your way, when everything is dark

When a long nights confuse you

And when you are frighten

Be daring, darling

There lies a hidden hope of tomorrow

When words are storm

That could break your ribs

And you become numb

Be daring, darling

You let them go

When life is getting you down
with one little unfulfilled thought

That will packed up everything

Be daring, darling

There are so many options in life

To keep standing firm

and to keep marching on

Through these twists and turns

Be daring, darling

Live in a path of hope

When you cry out everything you have felt
hoping that someone will pick them up
to the truth is, what I say

Be daring, darling

Hoping one day, somebody keeps your wise voices

My favorite Buddhist Parables

Many teachings of Buddhism is taught and told in short and delightful parables. They are usually designed to develop the mind and to free it from distortions and so to connect with our spirit.

Many of them are really inspiring and enlightening. It is helpful to the mind to think about them and feel the deeper meaning. Even if it is not possible to grasp them fully, the beauty and simplicity of the message usually get through to us one way or the other.

Some parables are a selection of the ones I found most inspiring and really worth pondering about. Some may be instantly understood, some others need to be thought through and recognized in oneself. We must always keep in mind two crucial principles: the Buddha Mind and serious practice. Without practice, and without the determination to achieve Buddha-hood for the benefit of all sentient beings (Bodhi Mind), parables merely feed the intellect and may become, in the words of D.T. Suzuki, "mere bubbles." 

1.       The Moving Flag

Two Buddhists monks were arguing about a flag flapping in the wind.

"It's the wind that is really moving," stated the first one.

"No, it is the flag that is moving," contended the second.

A third interrupted them. "Neither the flag nor the wind is moving," he said, "It is MIND that is moving."

2.       Goddess of Wealth / Goddess of Poverty

Once a beautiful and well-dressed woman visited a house. The master of the house asked her who she was and she replied that she was the goddess of wealth. The master of the house was delighted and so greeted her with open arms. Soon after another woman appeared who was ugly looking and poorly dressed. The master asked who she was and the woman replied that she was the goddess of poverty. The master was frightened and tried to drive her out of the house, but the woman refused to depart, saying, 'The goddess of wealth is my sister. There is an agreement between us that we are never to live apart; if you chase me out, she is to go with me.' Sure enough, as soon as the ugly woman went out, the other woman disappeared.

Birth goes with death. Fortune goes with misfortune. Bad things follow good things. Men should realize this. Foolish people dread misfortune and strive after good fortune, but those who seek Enlightenment must transcend both of them. (from The Teaching of the Buddha)

3.       A True Buddha

Three monks were drinking tea.

The Buddhist master asked the first monk, “What do you drink with your tea?”

The first monk replied, “I drink suffering, loneliness and make peace and happiness.”

The master nodded and exclaimed, “Oh, you are great, an enlightened one. You go now.”

The same question was asked to the second monk.

And the second monk replied, “I drink Buddha’s teaching, compassion and the Buddha himself with the tea.”

The master now fully satisfied with his explanation said, “You are a truly Buddha, an enlightened one. You too go.”

Then the master asked the third monk, “What do you drink with your tea?”

The third monk replied, “I picked out the fly from the tea cup and drink only tea.”

The master smiled and said, “You are the right person to sit in my place.”

And the master gave his sit to the third monk.

4.       The Buddha

There were two monks.

Younger is sitting in zazen.

Elder inquires, “Why are you sitting in zazen?”

Younger replies, “By sitting in zazen, I hope eventually to become a Buddha.”

Elder picks up a brick and begins rubbing it on a rock.

Younger laughs, “And what are you doing?”

Elder replies, “I am polishing this brick in hopes that eventually it will become a mirror.”

(The advanced story ends here, but for the rest of us it continues.)

Younger asks, “How can polishing a brick make a mirror?”

Elder retorts, “How can sitting in zazen make a Buddha!”

(And, true to the ancient formula, the younger monk instantly became a mirror.)